Do you have a time in your life that you can remember when you didn't feel anxious all the time?
Remember that feeling when you used to jump out of bed feeling positive every day? When life just felt fun? When you weren’t worrying all the time and used to go with the flow?
This is actually our natural state of being. When we are truly connected to source energy (The Universe), this is how we feel. When we feel like this, things come easily to us. We become as Gabby Bernstein puts it: ‘Super Attractors’ for what we want.
The problem is, that as adults many of us have come to accept the feeling of being anxious as normal.
We can become so used to it that we think life is just supposed to be like this. A bit grey, a bit worrying, a bit crappy. Have you come to accept the feeling of anxiety as normal? How often do you really feel grounded and connected?
The truth is that feeling good is your birth right!
When we feel great, our body is telling us that everything is in balance and that our energy field is healthy. Feeling anxious is your body’s way of turning on the fire alarm and telling you that something is wrong and something needs to change. For years I ignored my inner fire alarm and I muted it with beta blockers, food, cigarettes and more booze.
I wasn’t able to turn the fire alarm off until I was ready to stop anesthetising myself, to bear a bit of discomfort and to listen to what my body was trying to tell me to change. When we do this, we can start to peel back each layer of discomfort one at a time and bit by bit get closer and closer to feeling truly grounded, happy and connected to Source energy once more.
So why does alcohol disconnect us from Source energy so much?
Well, as well as stopping us from listening to our inner guidance system as mentioned above, it also really messes with our hormones and puts us into a low vibrational state. When we take a sip of alcohol, we get an initial dopamine hit. This is the reward hormone that encourages us to keep doing things. This is realeased when we do things that we need to do to survive, like eating food and having sex. However, it is also artificially stimulated when we carry out addictive behaviours like drinking alcohol.
Dopamine might make us feel good for about 15 minutes but then the brain is like ‘woaah there- there’s ways too much dopamine floating about here- let me just balance things out a little bit.’ It then does this by releasing the following hormones: cortisol (a stress hormone); adrenaline (the stress hormone linked to flight or fright) and dynorphine ( a DEPRESSANT). These hormones actually ‘balance us out’ so much that we wind up feeling worse than when we started, of course we want that high back that we got when we took that first sip right? So, it’s no surprise that we then reach for another drink and so the addictive cycle begins.
So, the reason why you may be waking up at 3am staring at the ceiling full of anxious thoughts is actually because of the cocktail of hormones that has been released as a consequence of you drinking alcohol. When we drink alcohol frequently, it can feel like the only thing that gives us relief from these horrible feelings of anxiety is having a drink, because it feels, at the time, that it numbs those feelings when it is actually the very thing that caused them. When we stop drinking all together and we ride out those initial waves of anxiety we can start to move back up the ladder towards what should be our normal state of being – that happy carefree, wholesome feeling that we used to have when we were children.
You won’t know how much better you can feel until you try:
Many of us have forgotten what feeling ‘normal’ actually feels like. This is why so many people report what is known as the ‘pink cloud’ when they initially give up alcohol- it can be a bit of a shock just how good you can feel! The great news is that even though the pink cloud doesn’t last forever and of course you will hit bumps in the road, life without alcohol really does get better and better. Yes, you will feel anxious or sad sometimes but when you do you can view these feelings as helpful signposts from The Universe, you can ask them what they are trying to show you and you can act on them using them as catalysts for growth, for clues for how to expand and improve.
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